My father's fall happened in the bathroom, on a wet tile, in the two seconds nobody was watching. Most of the fixes we made afterwards cost less than a family dinner.
19 Sep 20267 min read
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Nurul Huda Ismail
Cared for her mother at home through six years of vascular dementia
Family carer and dementia support volunteerShah Alam
I cared for my mother at home for six years as vascular dementia took her memory, and I now run a monthly support group for families doing the same. What I write comes from that, not from a textbook: the difference between the answer that sounds right and the answer that works on a Tuesday night when nobody has slept. I am honest about what I could not manage alone.
Writes about
- Dementia care at home
- Family carer support
- Respite planning
Articles by Nurul Huda Ismail
Taking the keys away ends independence, not just driving. Here is how families in Malaysia are handling it.
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Personal care, medication and clinical tasks fall into different categories — and most families get the line wrong.
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Short stays, in-centre or at home — where the beds are, what they cost, and how far ahead to book.
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Go in the morning, unannounced, and stay for two hours. Almost everything worth knowing shows up in the first fifteen minutes.
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In most families one person handles the clinic visits, the bills and the phone calls while the others are genuinely unaware. It is fixable, but not by being nicer.
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Discharge is a process, not an event. What to have in hand before the ward calls.
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The bathroom, the front step and the bedroom corridor decide how the first month goes.
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Thickening, positioning and the small changes that keep meals social rather than clinical.
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Burnout rarely announces itself. A written rota and two named backups do more than any amount of resolve.
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The cost difference is real, and so is where the responsibility lands when something goes wrong.
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